1st International Congress 'Children in ICT'

All that parents can do

This text is inspired in some form in the ‘Decalogue to form a criminal’ that the Juvenile Judge of Granada, Mr. D. Emilio Calatayud, usually spread by the masterful way as usual in public events. Resume Don Emilio ten points in those attitudes or actions with which parents (read henceforth parents) are contributing to their children (again, sons / daughters) end up being in full readiness to behave outside the law. I will quote him as referring to permission to use a style desenfadado, ironic and poignant .
I’ve been working since late 2003 on issues related to the safety of minors on the Internet, and although there are many factors involved, there is a responsibility, by action or omission, of Parents, especially when the teams are now in almost every home. And no, in general not doing anything good for adults. ‘ Is a small world ‘difficult to understand, yes, and even more complex followed by the rapid development of Internet, and with it, the conduct and activities of minors (or perhaps the implication should be cited in reverse, where the Net is evolving as demand).
However, there are our children, benefiting from the enormous potential of the Internet (remember many television in black and white, with the ‘a’, ‘the UHF’ and the letter of adjustment) but also growing in a environment where others or even themselves, are a threat to their healthy development. Having a problem on the Net is an unfortunate fact, and sometimes serious. Largely prevent these events is in large part to the scope of the adults, including those who may be considered illiterate digital because they do not require technical knowledge and guidelines but will be accompanied by some dedication. < >
However, if a parent wants to turn his son in a ciberdesgraciado, ie subject subject of unfortunate happen on the Net, you can either wash their hands (not a bad method, but is not quite infallible) or put everything on your part. For the latter, why has this Decalogue. Where to apply these guidelines will not be having a child with at least one problem with the Internet, I suggest to exploit this good venture to purchase lottery .

Councils, one by one

1) Start by buying a computer, for that you are a cool parent and rolling. It is of a child, for him alone. In this way we ensure that any guidelines regarding the family to use the same ceiling of entry with an additional obstacle: ‘is mine’, tell the child .

They are also parents Racan, who prefer to say that the computer is an appliance, like a refrigerator, shared by family members and, more missing, the parents managed because it is part of ‘your home ‘. What lack of consideration!

2) The privacy and intimacy of the child are inalienable rights. For this reason, and because less annoying, put the computer in a place reserved section and, if possible in the child’s room. That way your child will enjoy fully the network, without strings attached. If the computer is also portable, took less and can ‘get’ WiFi anywhere .

Many adults considered unethical some of which has been monitoring the activity of the child on the Net. Dare to put in opposition the right to privacy of minors with their duty of protection as parents. Reprehensible practice of conducting espionage look askance as what is on the screen, pay attention to reactions or mood swings that can be given before the computer, ask who their partners and friends on the Net or what to do when sailing … There have been cases in which they have come to control what their children visited pages, or spy on their talks, arguing that they thought something was not going well and might have to do with what was going on the Internet.

3) Make sure you have a webcam. It is a fundamental element. It brings many advantages, for example … well, some will not serve to identify the interlocutor with certainty because there are programs that tricks these images. In any case, all the other children have. His son already knows that should not be used with strangers or teach ‘the verguenza’ through it .

There are always parents ultraprotectores. We have had many problems that arise from images captured by web camera and that is a claim for sexual predators. Moreover, they say that an image that leaves a flash on the screen of someone becomes unrecoverable forever, as if it were possible to record and distribute easily. These are people with little confidence in their children. People with little kids is ready to be deceived by people may leave more skillful or adult, or light-headed they are going to have a heating caused by hormones own age. That’s why they do not want a camera that does not say aportales but risk .

4) Stop using the computer as much as you want, at any time. The ‘computer is good’. The child learns many things and it makes a lot homework. The more the better. Allow the use of the computer check the rhythms of food, although it will be different and scarce, and sleep, or rather, waking. It is possible to stop sharing the few moments of the day in that match you and your child home, but good, now the boys are well, they and their computer .

There are still parents rancid, obsolete, that attempt to impose military discipline in the home. Share moments with your family is, for them, waived. Lunch or dinner with your desktop, even a bit of relaxation in front of the television … is considered essential. Do not allow your child is separated from them at home raising a wall around the computer .

5) Consider yourself lucky if your child frequently resignation to leave or perform other activities. Locked up at home anything can happen and is protected from bad company, botellón, cigarettes irregular texture … We do not encourage them to seek alternatives for entertainment because the computer is more widely .

Those who go to ‘Progressive’ prefer their children platform out there, to the weather, watching world, exposing themselves to situations that have to learn to analyze and solve. They believe further that the screen does not protect the evils of universal and which may also comprise certain risks .

6) Never hesitate to his son. There are children who are caught up or get into trouble, which behave normally or circumstantial inappropriately, but you know that your child is not such. It can be any less her little boy, always the other .

Some parents confused, lacking in confidence, they think they can not meet all of their children. Surely it is because of them small things to hide their parents, who did not know what they did. Other, more insightful yet, believe their son may behave differently on the Net, either by the characteristics of the environment, either by the influences of others. These parents tend to think that while remote, there is the possibility that her son who has done or might do something inappropriate. That’s why we prevented the consequences of their actions and are alert for symptoms that could reveal conflicts or situations where it can be both victim and executioner .

7) Make clear that, before the first problem you have regarding the use of the Internet, the punishment will be apoteósico, starting with ‘cut off the tap. ” This ensures that you do not come with stories and walk with much eye .

Other parents’ milindrosos’ prefer to give as a first premise to go to ask for help is the best thing they can do their children no matter what happened or who started the trouble. They believe that greater evils so as to avoid harassment or blackmail (common in cases of ciberbullying and grooming) reach higher levels and generate further damage. They think that a child may feel responsible for problems that at times has even led to street and would not want their guilt .

Reinforce the idea that anything is possible on the Web. Everything is free, everyone does, and besides no one will know who has been. Begin by, for example, ask him to get off any programs to ‘hack’ a television and muéstrese payment satisfied with his feat praising his technical qualities and transgressive: ‘The world is ready for’.

There are some cases of parents who bully and limit the freedom of their children on the Net. They fill their heads with speeches on the law and ethics of respect for others and their things. Converted to their children and in rare acomplejados because they suggest that they do not enjoy anonymity and that in any case, is governed by the same laws that govern the ‘real life’ so you do not obey them can bring problems. < >

9) Do not deal with promoting other sets of alternative uses and the Web. He was not ask to happen to teach you how to do this or that thing with your computer, it does not do so because a parent is to make fools of ourselves and lose authority. In no event shall try to establish any link between his son, the Web and you. He and she, she and he, on the other side are you on and .

Experts from around the world are trying to analyze the exceptional cases of parents who, with questionable intent, seeking to provide new experiences

and enriching their children even pretending to share them. Contents of great interest, activities to participate in society through the Internet, organizing the holiday … can be certain of its obtuse objectives. What is most amazing is that there has been any cases in the father that his son was trying to teach him to use instant messaging what barbarity. Parents are, in short, which are reluctant to think that should be on the sidelines of something so important to their children as is’ your virtual world. ” Do not assume that the gap is large and growing and cling to, so every step that is desirable but not shorten essential .

10) If your child has a technical problem with the computer running to the store nearest to repair. Your child can learn from friends anything else less to repair a computer. Moreover, knowing that you are there before any emergency, you can click on any link happily suggestive. Make always chestnuts fire .

here are ruthless people who left pulled the child for days without a computer, such as pretending you see that every action has its impact and must be accountable for the consequences of one’s actions. In addition, get martyred, depriving it of its connection to the world for a few days, frustration that recalled his entire life .

And remember that if all this gives much lazy, you can activate the plan B, but less secure enough cash and more convenient: do not do anything about it .

Jorge Flores · www.pantallasamigas.net